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- <title>
- Nov. 18, 1991: Interview:Ethel Adelman
- </title>
- <history>
- TIME--The Weekly Newsmagazine--1991
- Nov. 18, 1991 California:The Endangered Dream
- </history>
- <article>
- <source>Time Magazine</source>
- <hdr>
- INTERVIEW, Page 12
- Assigning the Blame for a Young Man's Suicide
- </hdr>
- <body>
- <p>Deeply depressed, Adrian Adelman, 29, killed himself in
- September. ETHEL ADELMAN, the victim's mother, and her younger
- son ALAN claim that Adrian followed the instructions in the best-
- selling suicide manual Final Exit, and blame the book's author
- for their tragedy.
- </p>
- <p>By Bonnie Angelo and Ethel Adelman, Alan Adelman
- </p>
- <p> Q. Do you think Adrian would still be alive if he had not
- read Final Exit?
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: Yes. I think he would still be here today if it
- weren't for this book.
- </p>
- <p> Alan: He would still be suffering and suicidal, but the
- book certainly facilitated his death. This book took his life
- away.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Why did Adrian turn to Final Exit?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: He was 29. He had been suffering from major
- depression for seven months. As far as we know, he became a
- member of the Hemlock Society [a group co-founded by Derek
- Humphry that advocates the right of the terminally ill to take
- their own life] in July by sending them a check for $25. They
- don't screen members.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Why are you so angry at the book's author, Derek
- Humphry?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: Because he published a book that we consider very
- dangerous.
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: Some people want to kill themselves, but they can't
- find an easy way. Humphry outlines it step by step, even to
- fooling your doctors to get Seconal. This is why we're angry.
- </p>
- <p> Alan: I'd call it a suicide cookbook. It tells you which
- drugs are most effective, which are least effective, how to
- combine drugs with alcohol, how to enhance the toxicity of
- certain drugs. It's very, very explicit.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Had Adrian talked about or ever attempted suicide
- before?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: Yes, I don't know if it was a very determined
- attempt. At times he spoke so morbidly we weren't sure whether
- he actually tried something or not.
- </p>
- <p> But we did not ignore it at all. He announced his
- intention to do it, and we did our very best to talk him out of
- it, to reason with him, to show him that that was the wrong way
- to alleviate his pain, that it was, as his therapist called it, a
- permanent solution to a temporary problem--depression.
- </p>
- <p> Q. How can you be sure that the book affected his actions?
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: He talked about the book. He ordered it. When it
- came, we didn't give it to him. We hid it in the closet.
- </p>
- <p> Alan: I read part of it, so we knew what it was about. He
- went out and purchased another one.
- </p>
- <p> He followed the format in the book exactly. On page 81,
- the book says that if the survivors want to cover up the
- suicide, they can refuse an autopsy on religious grounds.
- Unless, of course, the state has a compelling reason to perform
- the autopsy, the wishes of the family will be respected.
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: He left notes, like this one: "Do not under any
- circumstances permit an autopsy. It is against Jewish law." And
- this kid didn't know the first thing about Jewish law, because
- we're not that religious.
- </p>
- <p> Alan: On page 88, the book tells you what letters to
- write, gives you a format to use, instructs you to prepare and
- leave a copy of your living will and to appoint a power of
- attorney for health care. He did it all.
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: It's in the book, and it's in his notes: "If I am
- discovered before I have stopped breathing, I forbid anyone,
- including doctors or paramedics, to attempt to revive me. If I
- am revived, I shall sue." He followed the format.
- </p>
- <p> Alan: We thought he was being original.
- </p>
- <p> Q. What did the toxicologist's report show?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: He took Seconal--a lethal dose, far above a
- therapeutic dose--phenobarbital, codeine and alcohol. He was
- legally drunk. The book tells you to chase the pills down with
- vodka, and we found an open bottle of vodka in his apartment.
- </p>
- <p> Phenobarbital, Seconal--I understood those because
- they're both barbiturates and powerful sleeping pills. But I
- couldn't understand why codeine. Then I found on page 110 that
- Jean Humphry, his first wife, died in 1975 within 50 minutes by
- taking a combination of Seconal and codeine. There it was.
- There's where Adrian got the idea.
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: The book also tells you to take a Dramamine first
- so that you don't become nauseated and throw up. He took that
- too.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Any other links?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: The book instructs you how to trick the doctor to
- get drugs strong enough for suicide. Adrian went to three
- doctors. We've reconstructed this through his bills.
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: Our family doctor told us that he gave him 30
- Seconals. He couldn't believe that this boy was depressed.
- Adrian said, "I have insomnia." He lied. He fooled a lot of
- people.
- </p>
- <p> Alan: The book also tells you to put a plastic bag over
- your head after you take the pills, and he did this as well.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Could you say exactly what happened over Labor Day
- weekend?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: On Sunday night, Sept. 1, my sister and her husband
- went to Adrian's apartment, to bring him to our place for
- dinner. They found him lying in his hallway with a plastic bag
- over his head.
- </p>
- <p> The police went through the apartment, found his
- prescription drugs and found a copy of Final Exit in his
- raincoat pocket in the closet.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Have you communicated your concern to Derek Humphry?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: No, I have not.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Why not?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: I honestly don't think he cares. He is indifferent
- to who might read it.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Do you think assisted suicide or euthanasia is ever
- acceptable?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: Under certain circumstances. If people are
- terminally ill, yes, they have a right to do it. But I think if
- they're determined to make that decision, they can go out and
- do the research on their own. They don't need the Hemlock
- Society.
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: I don't know. I feel that if you're racked with
- pain, I don't think you're in your right mind to make a decision
- like this, to take your own life. When people become depressed,
- they can't always tell right from wrong. This was not the same
- Adrian anymore.
- </p>
- <p> Alan: It is possible that you're no longer competent
- enough to make that kind of decision. But my view regarding the
- right of a terminally ill person to commit suicide does not
- change my belief that publishing a book like this is reckless
- and negligent. The dangerous thing about the book is that it
- falls into the hands of teenagers and clinically depressed
- people.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Would you, if you had had the power, have prohibited
- publication?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: Absolutely. Or regulated it in some way.
- </p>
- <p> Q. How do you square that with the First Amendment?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: Since I think the book is dangerous, I think this
- information that he so carefully researched and packaged could
- have been communicated, distributed, in a different way.
- </p>
- <p> If people want to go to the Hemlock Society and sit down
- with a representative face to face, and tell him that they're
- dying, he could give them information right there on the spot.
- There's a difference between someone going to the Hemlock
- Society and just putting the book on the shelves in a bookstore.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Humphry says that "suicide for reasons of depression
- has never been part of the credo of the Hemlock Society."
- </p>
- <p> Alan: The only warning I found was on page 123, listed
- under the heading of "Advice," not warning. It says, "This
- information is meant for consideration only by a mature adult
- who is dying..."
- </p>
- <p> Even if he thought his words under the heading of "Advice"
- constituted a plea, isn't page 123 a little too late, after he
- already outlined dozens of methods of suicide? If there was a
- warning, it should have been placed at the beginning of the
- book. He's not telling depressed people not to use the
- methodology in the book. I don't find it to be a warning at all.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Adrian's therapist was dealing directly with his
- suicidal talk?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: This is important. His therapist thinks he had a
- chance. Although there's no way to measure something like this,
- she thinks there was a shift away from his suicidal impulses.
- But, she said, once he got that book, we lost him. The book
- gave him confidence.
- </p>
- <p> He became obsessed with the book. It showed him the way.
- He wanted it to be a nonpainful way. The book was clearly the
- answer to his dilemma of how to commit suicide without feeling
- any pain. He said he would never shoot himself or do anything
- like that.
- </p>
- <p> Everybody tried to help him; but when he got his hands on
- the book, he was no longer interested in psychiatric help or
- therapy.
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: He said it's not easy to kill yourself. This made
- it easy.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Why do you think Final Exit is on the best-seller list?
- More than 500,000 copies have been sold since mid-July.
- </p>
- <p> Alan: There are a lot of terminally ill people in the
- country. But there are as many, if not more, clinically
- depressed people--people who are not terminally ill, who are
- just unhappy, just can't cope, who find the book fascinating.
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: And what about 16-year-olds? Suicide is a problem
- among teenagers.
- </p>
- <p> Alan: Why did he put the book where minors could get their
- hands on it? They don't let minors buy cigarettes. And he knew
- it would fall into the hands of depressed people. Why didn't he
- regulate the distribution? That's why I strongly believe he's
- not concerned at all with whose hands the book falls into.
- </p>
- <p> While I don't object to euthanasia, his way of expressing
- his beliefs and disseminating the information is reckless.
- </p>
- <p> Q. Does the book suggest ways to avoid rescue?
- </p>
- <p> Alan: It advises you to make sure you have absolute
- privacy for up to eight hours. Friday or Saturday night is
- usually the quietest time. They don't want you to be discovered.
- </p>
- <p> Ethel: Like Labor Day weekend...
- </p>
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- </body>
- </article>
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